Abnormal love, degenerate my youth for ten years
When she lived with him, she didn’t know that he was a married woman. After knowing the truth, she had suffered or even committed suicide, but she still didn’t leave him.
She was a “third party” for ten years and gave birth to a son, but eventually returned the man to his wife.
Story: Jiayan (pseudonym) Gender: Female Age: 31 Education: Vocational high school Occupation: Individual writing: Chu Tianshi Daily News reporter Bi Yun, correspondent Wang Hanling Jiayan (pseudonym) wears a dark green skirt, with a very quiet temperament; she is very thinThe laughter was hearty.
坐定后，她语速很快地说：“你一定很希奇为什么我这个‘第三者’还可以笑出来吧，其实我为了这个错误，付出了很大的代价，我这几年是在Tears came over.
If I knew he was married, I would never be with him.
“It seems Jiayan is a very talkative woman.
I was born in Chongqing and gave up my dream of art. Although my family was in the countryside, my parents saw me as the pearl of my palm and my mother was a kindergarten teacher.
At the age of six, the mother was unfortunately seriously ill and exhausted all her savings at home.
In 1992, I was admitted to the Sichuan Academy of Fine Arts, but the tuition fee was too high, so I had to give up.
I was very sad. I went to the karaoke room to sing alone, and wanted to vent all the unhappiness in my heart.
The owner of the singing hall is a vocal teacher of the Conservatory. When I was about to leave, he stopped me, said that he would accept me for free as a student, and introduced me to the teacher college to repeat it.
I lived up to the expectations of my teacher and successfully passed the music department of Sichuan Normal University.
But the tuition for the music department was still too expensive, and I had to give up my ideals again.
Later, I became a singer in the karaoke room opened by the teacher.
One night, when I sang Teresa Teng’s “Cloud River”, I saw a man sitting in the corner. The jeans on his body were dirty and he leaned weakly against the back of the chair.
No waiter is willing to bring him tea, because the waiter can tip the guests for tea, but he looks very downcast, who wants to take care of him?
I gave him a cup of tea after I sang the song, and kindly advised him not to come to such a high-consumption place. He looked at me silently and left without saying a word.
The next day, I received the first call in my life. He called me. On the phone, I knew his name-Yonghao (pseudonym).
He asked with concern why I worked there.
I don’t know why, I have told all the bitterness of these years to this stranger who has only one side to meet.
That afternoon, Yong Hao appeared in front of me again, and he asked me to go to him if he was in trouble.
I am very touched.
In the future, he will often call to greet me. When the weather changes, he will definitely call to remind me to focus on keeping warm.
Growing up this way, no one except my parents cares about me so much, and is considerate to me. At a young age, I slowly moved on him.
First love, I fell in love with a husband and wife. I took Yonghao home. My parents liked him very much.
Yonghao told us: His father died when he was very young, but he was very upset and had a stable job in the city.
We lived together after the flight.
One day, his fellow countryman accidentally said that Yonghao was married in his hometown, and had two children. I was so excited that I could not drink. I poured a bottle of white wine. After waking up, I found Yonghao staying at the bed.Arguing with him, he didn’t say a word.
I was so angry that I rushed out of the house without even wearing my shoes and jumped to the river without thinking.
Maybe I shouldn’t die, an old fisherman saved me.
I went back to my parents.
I wanted to break this relationship, who knew that Yonghao repeatedly assured me that he had no relationship with his wife Fangping, and would definitely divorce his wife.
I had to go back with him first.
Yong Hao and Fang Ping talked for a long time, and finally they decided to divorce, and I waited for them to return at Yong Hao’s grandmother’s house.
However, when they returned, they told me that the marriage was not divorced. Fang Ping took away all the belongings of me and Yonghao, and said to me, “Let ‘s go, I do n’t want this man.
“We were penniless and had to walk back from the village to the city on foot.
Because of our business, Yonghao resigned.
Yonghao came to Wuhan to do fishing gear business with the help of his fellow villagers.I wanted to take advantage of this separation and completely replace him, and then I hid it. Later, I heard that he came back to find me for seven days and seven nights. I relented and met him again.
He knelt in front of me, crying, and asked me to come to Wuhan with him. I was moved again by him. In October 1995, I came to Wuhan with him.
Jiayan no longer smiled, and was sad and despicable: “Actually, when I did n’t know he was a married woman, he really loved him. He was very tall, well-organized, and thoughtful to me.
For a girl who is only 21 years old and love is beginning, he is the “Prince of White Horse” in my mind, but this “Prince” has deceived the innocent “Princess”.
“Shameful, embarrassing triangle relationship. After we rented the house, we had no savings. We could only work in a fishing gear shop in his hometown. With the efforts of two people, we saved a little later.
In 1996, we started our own fishing gear business.
Business is good, life seems a little dawning, but Yonghao’s wife, Fang Ping, has found Wuhan. My life suddenly turned cloudy, and even worse, I was pregnant with Yonghao’s child.
I decided to quit and let the couple do the fishing gear business together.
But no one dared to rent a house to a single pregnant woman in the field, but I had no choice but to return to Yonghao and wait for the child to be born. The three of them lived under the same roof awkwardly.
In March 1997, I gave birth to a son. The child looks beautiful.
Despite my poor health, I wanted to leave with my child as soon as I finished confinement.
Surprisingly, Fang Ping didn’t agree, so she didn’t let me go.
I said I couldn’t understand it. Jia Yan smiled bitterly and said, “Maybe it’s because Fang Ping has no culture. She is afraid that if I leave, this fishing gear business will not continue.
Fangping took a sum of money from home to join the store.
She said that as long as Yonghao did not divorce her, she would not care about Yonghao and me.
I think waiting until I teach her to do fishing gear business may be a little compensation for her.
I taught her for three full years, the business in the store became very popular, and several stores around were forced to close.
Later, the daughters of Yonghao and Fangping also came to Wuhan after graduating from junior high school.
见她们母女俩学得差不多了，我就自己在外开了一个零售店预备和他们一家彻底分开，我对芳萍说：“以前是我做了‘第三者’，现在你们一家人团圆了I return you a complete home. I do n’t want a penny of property over the years. Even if it is my compensation for destroying your family, I hope you do n’t come to me again.
“I left Yonghao with my son, but Yonghao kept coming to me.
In October 2002, I asked him how he wanted to resolve this embarrassing triangular relationship, but he did not expect that he would say, “Just go through it, there is nothing bad, no need to divorce.
“For this man, I was completely desperate.
I accepted my boyfriend Cheng Jie (pseudonym) introduced by my friend. He is very honest and willing to accept our mother and son.
But my relationship with him soon let Yonghao know, and he threatened me not to deal with Cheng Jie.
Later, Yong Hao took my son away from me and sent him back to his native village in Chongqing to prevent our mother and son from meeting.
Now I am dreaming about my son. When I have a certain financial ability, I will take over my son. I have to cultivate him well. I did not realize the ideal. I hope my son can achieve it for me.
Jiayan has always been calm, as if she was talking about other people’s affairs. This calmness surprised me. Has the suffering of life already worn away the last passion in her heart?
Before leaving, Jiayan sighed and said, “I really did not expect that the most precious youth time of my life was spent in this wrong love. The beautiful ideals that I had in the beginning could not be achieved. If I could do it again，我决不会做‘第三者’。Like all women, I long for a secure home.
“Reporter’s note: Improper” third party “listening to Jia Yan, I always have a kind of melancholy in my heart, I don’t understand that such a woman, looks, IQ, and character are not bad. Why did it end like this?
Think calmly, Jia Yan’s love is bound to be a tragedy.
When she was familiar with Yonghao ten years ago, the tragedy began. Now she left Yonghao, and a long and tedious tragedy finally closed.
The cause of Jiayan’s tragedy is because she fell in love with a married woman, but was unable to become the other party’s legitimate wife. After ten years of affection and youth, she eventually got nothing but the name of a “third party”.
To enjoy one’s love, but to bear more hate, the identity of the “third party” is really embarrassing, and the feeling of love and hate cannot be avoided.
The problem is that when it is inappropriate to be a “third party,” it is entirely possible for you to choose.
At the beginning, when the tragedy began, Jia Yan found that the people around her were married people and decided to leave. Will her life be brighter now?
If the two of them renamed and rebuilt their families according to law in the name of love, how could there be a deformed family of “three coexistence” in this world?
Human civilization ultimately chose a monogamous marriage system, which makes sense, because it is the most stable and most in line with human nature.
If you fall in love with the people in the siege, you must choose again as soon as possible, and don’t put yourself in the embarrassing “triangle”.